I met a woman tonight (friend's sister) and her children today. I was surprised at the way she spoke to her 4 1/2 month old. The baby girl cried a few times, she'd just look at her on the floor and say "I'm not holding you, fatty." and leave her on the blanket. Eventually she picked her up to feed her and said "You're a pain in the butt, I'm gonna throw you in the trash." this was in a "joking" voice, but why even say it? These are just examples, this went on all evening.
I feel so sorry for the baby. If she were my child I'd be holding her non-stop and cuddling her.
I would say call CPS, you can remain anonymous. If she was really sick through her pregnancy then she may resent the baby. I would call them and hope for the best at the least she will watch the way she talks to her children. Joking or not that is very very wrong.
Chances are nothing will happen but she may harm the child it happens more then you know. I did a report on inficide and the numbers are more then alarming. Just give them a call and they will investigate it will turn out ok. I would rather have them investigate me if there was not a problem and be over cautious then ignore a claim and result in the death of a child.
She's a real idiot and not a mother. There's a difference between being a mother and being a woman with a baby and she is the latter. For the child's sake I pray that things change before she gets older and can remember the verbal abuse.
Call CPS because if she does this in public I can't imagine what goes on in private. If there's nothing wrong they will see that but better safe than sorry with small children.
Joking or not. As her behavior continue's as the child gets older, the child will have self esteem issue's. Calling her fatty and using such threats can cause a child to feel worthless and question the devotion and love for them. Especially if she ignores her child (as she did when the infant was crying) with such sentence as what she said, the fate of this child is not good.
This is exactly the point in how children are today, because of "parents" like your friend's sister.
I joke with my child but I would never call her "fatty". I had an awful pregnancy too and an even worse birth and it makes me enjoy my daughter even more. So what, I had to go through 9 months of morning sickness and 15 hours of labor, but it was worth. I would do it all over again to see her beautiful face, the first time she smiled, and the first time she said mama.
Did she treat her other children that way? If she did then I think she may have a problem. Not a physical abuser but maybe and emotional one. Like blaming everyone, including her children for her problems i.e. sickness, lack of money, dirty home and so on. I would talk to her. Tell her that the things that she is saying have potential to cause irrecoverable harm to her children and ask her is she may be suffering from post partem depression. She may get mad but you've at least made her aware.
Good luck!
yah thats not good tell your sister bout it shelel say somin bout it
i have 4 children and 1 on the way and i would never speak to a baby that way she does not deserve the honer and privilege of being a mother
Sounds like she's just a sarcastic joker. Don't take it seriously, and don't worry about it.
It could be postpartum depression, or she could just be one of those women that does not deserve to have a baby. Either way, there isn't much you can do... it is so sad.
Try talking to your friend about it... she may be able to help her sister.
If you encounter it again, say something like "you seems really stretched thin... would you like some help some time so you can get away?" She might get the hint that he behavior is not normal.
Why say it? For some women, it is a desperate cry for someone to PLEASE HELP!!! Is she a single mom, or a mom with a very uninvolved husband?
Sounds like that infant has an infantile parent.
I bet she has postpartum depression. I had it bad 2 times. She probably needs medical help. I did not speak to my babies this way it was directed to myself, but I know others have thoughts directed at their children. That is not normal
All I can say is how sad for that baby, If she keeps talking to her that way, when she understands then that baby might grow up to have a very low self esteam, I agree with you totally. we need to instil self worth into our children so they can grow up to succeed in life, thats so hard to do anyway in todays times, But i think it makes it even harder if your child is growing up thinking they are nothing.
I'll say joking things to my daughter, but I wouldn't call her fatty or tell her I was going to throw her in the trash. I doubt its a result of a difficult pregnancy, she probably is just joking. Maybe if you see her again and she continues in this way just mention that while it may be harmless now, she'll be understanding everything people say to her very soon and even though its a joke it could hurt her self esteem in the long run. I call my daughter weirdo, but I also call myself and my husband weirdo. It suits all of us and its not mean.
well its her fuckin problem she got pregant not the kid
Wow. That's just wrong, joking voice or not. When you think about it, a lot of people say what they truly mean when they are "joking". Poor baby. Keep an eye on her in the future...
I would speak to your friend about it and see what she thinks. Follow you heart and if you think this baby is in some real trouble then you should call CPS. God Bless You!
That poor child. That is horrible, if the mom is really doing that sort of thing.
I had horribly complicated pgcies with my two children, including a miscarriage before my first child came about. I could never say things like that to them.
:( My heart hurts for that baby. This mother really needs some help, it concerns me that she "jokes' abuot throwing her little one in the trash. That's no joking matter.
Doesn't sound healthy. Could it be postpartum depression, maybe? If you want to help them both, take it from me: DON'T criticize the mother! I found out the hard way that that just makes the problem worse.
If Mom won't hold the baby, you might pick her up yourself and say something positive about her. If Mom talks about how sick she was, you could mention how lucky she is to have such a beautiful baby after a difficult pregnancy, that sort of thing. See if you can get Mom to take a more active interest in her little one. God bless you!
wow, i don't think she should even be a mother. i couldn't imagine saying things like that to anyone, especially not to someone who i'm supposed to love with all my heart. i have a little boy, he's 2, and he's my world. kids have feelings too, and when her daughter get's older, if you still know her, you will see the effects of being spoken to like that. that's really sad. babies need to be spoken to in a way that you want them to speak because they learn from everything that's around them.
Joking or not there can be long term effects to the child if mother is doing it jokingly now is it going to be for real later when the child is older and can understand the meaning of the words.
no, i do think you are overreacting. As you said it was said in a joking tone, I do that with my kids when they are young like that.
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