I love this man so much, he's the most sensitive & wonderful man I know. This has only happened 4 times in 2 years but I dont feel comfortable with it. I dont mind him having business contacts & his friends but I feel like the women get too personal & infatuated with him calling him endearing names, he tells them he has a sweetheart & asks them nicely not to say those things to him. He told a woman tonight she should be calling her husband those endearing names. He encourages them to work on their relationships. Besides them being infatuated or idealizing him for the kind of profession he's in, they quickly discover they are chatting with a very unusual man, very compassionate & kind hearted human being. That seems to make them want to cling to him. I think its crazy how people get so bold online, do & say things they wouldn't say to any stranger they met in the real world!
I see no huge problem with him talking to women, as long as he's not cheating.
The problem i do have is the HUGE amount of time he spends doing it when he should be spending his time and giving his attention to you.
Why does he feel the need to do this?
Is he insecure?
Is he bored with your relationship?
I would disagree with your comment that he's sensitive, he clearly isn't sensative to your needs or you wouldn't be asking this question.
How would he feel if you spent two hours talking to other men?
Would he be ok with that?
I doubt it very, very much.
You need to sort this out, there is no way you can marry a man who puts other people first in your relationship.
Secondly, all these women don't just 'turn' infatuated with him by chance, this is because of the way he deals with them, they way he talks to them and very simply he has to stop doing what he's doing, it's within his control.
What if of them falls for him?
What if she does everything she can to split you up?
Offers him sex on the day you've had an massive argument?
If he doesn't then i think you need to question if this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You should be concerned. He is not doing enough to stop the chats, etc.
Of course they like him because he is nice to them and listens. He needs to devote more time / attention to you.
There is no room in your relationship for those women.
Make it clear.
How sensitive can he be if he is talking to other women for hours KNOWING it bothers you?
The problem here is not the bold women on the line...its your man! You seem a bit blinded by love to me to not understand that.
I wouldn't be too concerned about the other women if your relationship is strong. What isn't right is the amount of time he spends with them. Those are lost hours that could be spent doing something more beneficial.
What would worry me is the fact he chats to these women - which is encouraging them somewhat! Why does he feel the need to talk to women online - cant he have a conversation with you???
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