I am a married woman who is going to meet another married woman tonight for the first time. I was referred to her by a doctor/nurse to help her through the tough times that she is going through. I have donated my kidney to my daughter last year, and she will be doing it for hers this year, and she is really scared. What do I say? Do I be honest, or do I sugarcoat it? I'm also afraid that there will be hardly any conversation and it will be boring. I know really nothing about her.
Hello, Becky, from England. What a brave and poignant question!
I can really appreciate your concern, but (and I am sure you know what I am going to say here) be honest, and don't sugarcoat anything. Look at it this way: she will be just as nervous as you - honestly! When you meet her, smile, give her a nice hug - that will break the ice quickly, trust me.
I think you are a brave lady: you have my respect. I wish you well.
Just be there for her if she has any questions, calm her fears, and have a cup of coffee and talk about things you have in common.
Share you experiance of sharing your kindney and try to comfort her.
Buy her a drink to break the ice and take it from there. There is no script for this. Good luck.
She referred to you as a doctor/nurse so that means she trust you and your experience. Talk about the subject and use humour to bridge in the silence gaps. Be completely honest i say and ask questions like what she like to you and response back on like i know what you mean. Just be honest, take a interest in her and be happy.
Talk things over with her, make her feel like your really really glad to be talking to her about it, tell her it's nothing to worry about, and that if she's scared, think of things to get over her fears. Hope this helps. GOOD LUCK!
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