Ok, here's the sitch. Me and this new guy have been going out only for about a week. Our first date---he treated me to drinks at a plush city hotel restaurant....where I'm sure he paid atleast $40+ just for the drinks. Well---I told him I planned on taking him out next (even before our 1st date we both said we wanted to show each other the different spots we liked) well tonight---Im meeting up with him at my favorite restaurant where I plan to pay. Afterwards---I may also take him to this spot for drinks but am undecided whether he should be expecting me to pay or what...? Am I doing too much too soon. I'm not trying to show-boat that I got money, but am trying to be reciporical in that, I don't always expect him to pay for every outting. GUYS---does this give me points, make me stand out or will thi smake him take advantage of this? Do guys prefer "princess" women who EXPECT to be winded and dined all the time without paying?
some guys do, some guys do not.
in my personal opinion he is a lucky guy to meet a woman like you who believes in reciprocating.
that shows that you have a view of equality and are willing to put a matching amount of time and effort into any possible relationship that you might have.
and if he is like me he will appreciate you as well.
if he does like the princess part you may want to actually let him pay for most of the dates.
he will only take advantage of you if he's just a bad person in general.
you have any friends or clones like you?
kudos and respect.
Nothing wrong with you paying this time. I don't see a thing wrong with wining and dining the man you are attracted to. It is a sign of independence, and men do not like clinging women, unless they are wife beaters or something. Then they need someone to be all up under them (no pun intended, lol). Do your thing girl.
No, I find that even in this day and age going dutch doesn't happen much if at all. Then again I'm a adult.
We don't prefer one or the other, well most don't. But I KNOW I feel special when a lady picks up the bill (only if I know I have done the same thing to her, first) and treats me.
As for expecting something after paying the bill, , no mean no for the lady's as well.hehe ;)
i think it depends on the guys. I personally find it an oxymoron that women want to be equals with men, but then expects men to pay for everything. that doesnt sound equal to me. i like to pay most of the time, but i appreciate it when the woman offers to pay or pays for a change.
ooo. great question!
i've been in this boat as well. seems like the guys either fight you to pay because they want to be the 'care-giver' or they take advantage. i have yet to meet a guy who is both. just make sure you're not stuck paying 3x as much as he did for you. say you get dinner and let him get the drinks or something.
It depends. Are you trying to be more masculine energy or feminine energy?
It sounds like you are more the feminine type. All you have to do is estimate how much money your share and give it to him to pay. He'll like that regardless because it puts him in command.
Depends. If a female makes more money than me, I expect her to pay for stuff. Its not 1923 anymore. There are no gender roles. If you are the breadwinnner, girls.... you are the bill payer. You asked for equality now start equalizing. If your man has no cash and you are a corporate chick... what does that tell you??? YOU ARE THE PAYER. If he has to pull his wallet out one time... you suck.
In the case of my girlfriend... she is the traditional "housewife" type who wants to be a stay home mom. I'm financially secure enough that its ok if I pay for everything. I dont mind at all. Everything in her life is free. I got it covered. I like a strong idnependent housewife who doesnt let feminists suggest she's some kind of inferior "clingy" being when actually she is a very loved and worshiped being.
0 ความคิดเห็น:
แสดงความคิดเห็น