Ladies: Are women really like this? Or is it just meeting the wrong ones?
One time at a bar/club, I politely asked a woman if I could have a seat. Being a gentleman, I chatted with her for 5 minutes and then let her be and cooly asked for her number.
She had a bf.
There was a librarian flirting with me. I came back to see her, started convo with her.
"Im married."
Tonight at the laundry mat, a cute woman where I live and I had a small convo. Since it was just the two of us, I asked for her number.......another one who has a bf.
My thing is, not that women have to be nuns, but why do they enjoy convos with guys then turn them away?
This is seriously starting to annoy me and depress me.
And im 28.
I don't warrant a lecture. I am a good person, no cocky casanova, Im just myself.
What's going on?
My last gf, I broke up with. She was divorced, and gradually, after 4 months things fell flat fast. I never got a real explanation.
Im really starting to dislike most of you, no offense.
How do I stay calm?
In the first one she should have not led you on. I mean I as a woman can easily assume that if I am in a bar/club, there is going to be single men that might approach me in one way or another. If I had a bf or married, I would be prepared to reject guys that come up to me in the bar. My preparation would be looking unapproachable(personally, I would not care to hang out at bars/clubs if I was in love). Was this woman by herself or sitting next to girlfriends? I mean, I guess the woman should have not seemed approachable and should have being prepared to reject single men coming up to her(unless it's a scenario where it is a guy that she is already acquainted with...etc.).
In the second scenario, well, if someone if flirting with you, you should STILL always check the finger for a ring. Also, interpreting flirting signs from a person working 'on the job' is confusing sometimes. Sometimes they are just doing their job and being really friendly with customers. I myself have experienced getting rejected from a guy I thought was flirting with me. He was a guy who worked at a grocery store that I shop at, but it turned out as I shopped there more(after my whole rejection situation), he seemed friendly with many customers. I don't really make any dating moves with "friendly/flirty" workers anymore as a result of that (unless they make the big move first).
On the third scenario, you didn't say who started the converse. If YOU initiated the conversation, then she didn't do anything wrong. Depending on our different characteristics and personalities, not all women will assume that a guy starting a conversation with them in a random place will result in that guy asking for a phone number. I mean, what was she supposed to do? Shut you up at the beginning of the conversation and jump to a conclusion thinking, "this guy is going to ask me for my phone number so I better brush him away now." Also, if she was aware you live around her, she probably just didn't want to be rude and figured she should at least acknowledge you as a neighbor instead of ignoring you or being stuck up.
Basically, it was a coincidence that 3 women in a row were already attached to someone else. It just happened that you took your chances with the wrong ones. None of them were single and not meant for you. It was simply, a form of rejection. However, you will encounter the right single one someday that will give you a chance. You just have to wait and have patience for the best one, because good things come to those who wait.....
Honestly man, most girls sound like they're flirting, but its just the way they act. Its annoying, I know. Just watch for a ring, and try to prod around the "R" word and see if she says anything to avoid a wierd situation.
we enjoy convos with you because we enjoy talking. who says that if we're taken we can't talk to you? we like good conversations, it's not like we try to set you up, we just enjoy to talk.
They are just being nice by talking to you... they're not obviously gonna say right away "oh i have a bf" cause its rude.
at least i think it is.
A lot of girls are flirts without even realizing it, ticks me off tough
You have no problem with talking to women, so thats good to hear, but you shouldn't beat yourself everytime a girl is taken. Sometimes you have to look for signals if a girl is taken or not by 1.) looking at her marriage finger. 2) is she by herself? or with a group of girlfriends?
3) Location is very important 4) Body language; touching their hair, checking makeup, showing skin.....other times you just cant tell! You have to just go and take a chance. Its not like your wasting any of your time talking with these women for 5-15 minutes.
Hmmm maybe for a change, you should offer your number instead of asking for theirs.
I guess asking women's numbers directly might scare some women off. "Well, if you are ever interested in going out here is my number." This is only if you're really into the girl!
It's all about meeting the right one. As for the problem of women talking to you even though they have boyfriends or husbands, a lot of women just like the attention, and a lot of them probably don't want to hurt your feelings so they may try to ease into telling you they're 'taken'. And obviously some women are just rude. It can be depressing, but maybe you need to switch things up and look in different places. Or maybe youshould stop looking; I say this only because usually when you stop trying so hard they're lined up for you! That's what happened to me, anyway. As soon as I stopped looking and started focusing on me they were coming from all directions! Anyway, you're outlook will totally change when you meet the right person... and you WILL meet the right person. Hang in there and good luck!!
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