Ok, here's the sitch. Me and this new guy have been going out only for about a week. Our first date---he treated me to drinks at a plush city hotel restaurant....where I'm sure he paid atleast $40+ just for the drinks. Well---I told him I planned on taking him out next (even before our 1st date we both said we wanted to show each other the different spots we liked) well tonight---Im meeting up with him at my favorite restaurant where I plan to pay. Afterwards---I may also take him to this spot for drinks but am undecided whether he should be expecting me to pay or what...? Am I doing too much too soon. I'm not trying to show-boat that I got money, but am trying to be reciporical in that, I don't always expect him to pay for every outting. GUYS---does this give me points, make me stand out or will thi smake him take advantage of this? Do guys prefer "princess" women who EXPECT to be winded and dined all the time without paying?
It will make you stand out. I was the first girl that ever paid for a date with my husband (our second date) and granted it was a cheaper date than our first, he was caught by surprise. I have never met a guy that didn't like when i would offer up to pay the tab. I made it clear that if I invited them, i would be paying. If they invited me-well, then it is their bill. (and i did my fair share of inviting)
I would not worry about "show-boating" or what not. Go, have a wonderful dinner and let the evening go from there. Most likely, at the second place, he will want to pay if he is a true gent. But to be honest, don't even mention that it is your treat or not. Just take charge and grab the bill. Or have your wallet/card out ahead of time. But like i said, he will probably want to grab the bill for drinks. If he does, thank him. If he doesn't, oh well. Buy your new honey a few drinks.
Make an offer to pay for the after dinner drinks. If nothing else, go dutch. I think it emasculates men if you pay for everything. That's what I've read anyway. They like to feel like a man, providing for you and such and so forth. I like to play the princess, but in this case, offering to pay, covers you in all corners.
Yes just don't do this more than he does. Try to keep it about even as far as things go. Most would not mind it at all just watch out that he is doing his share.
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They're some good ones out there who want to be treated to a nite out too. You're doing good.
If women like this really existed, I would like them very much.
keep it 50/50.
Depends on the guy. There are no rules anymore, like there were 50 years ago, that the guy pays, so everyone winds up confused. Some of us guys like to pay, some women like to pay, and only you and he know what is OK with you two. I would not say he should automatically expect you to pay for drinks at your second spot tonight, but you shouldn't automatically expect him to, either, since you're paying for dinner.
Again, we're all different. I was always fine with women who expected not to pay, though maybe when I was a student I split expenses sometimes (sorry, too long ago to remember). I was always fine with women who wanted to treat sometimes. Some guys will take advantage of you and some won't - that's what dating is for, to find out if you're with a nice compatible person who will behave reasonably and kindly and fairly. :)
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