So in December i found out that my husband has been flirting back and forth with a woman in his office. threw email. Then about a month later i found out the it was not only emails but they had been talking on the phone and text messaging when he was home with me and our children.
SO i called him out on it and we worked it out pretty much... were still dealing with trust issues and what not, and i still have issues with him working with her and stuff. But thats going to take time.
Well this weekend i got an email from her asking me to please meet up with her, that she thinks us talking in person is well over due and she would like to meet for coffee tonight.
I dont know what to do, she has already told me that she was sorry for everything so what could she possibly have to tell me tonight???
what should i do.
While you are married your husband should not be flirting with girls. It is totally wrong although it is a fantasy for some people. Talk to him that you do not like him talking to that girl and if possible YOU talk to that girl and request her to stay away from your husband.
I can't believe that people are telling you to meet her! That is crazy. You have no idea what she is up to. What if she believes that she is in Love with your husband? What if she tells you things that aren't true? She may think that you will leave him and that he will then be with her. Some women are very desperate. I think you'd be crazy to meet her! You have nothing to say her!
Tell he NO way and to stay the H*LL away from your husband and Family. She is a home Wrecker!
Don't go. She's looking to alleviate her guilty conscience and seeking forgiveness from you. You owe her nothing. Your relationship and your issues are with your husband not this woman.
She is out of the picture at the moment - meeting up with her is keeping her IN the picture. Don't do it. Thank her for the apology but politely decline to meet up.
Do not trust her. The things to remember are that this woman was flirting with a married man and is now not dropping the drama but continuing it - which is all a major flag for crazy and unstable.
Watch your back and be prepared for the worst. But do go, bring a witness and be prepared to document the event.
Good luck and good for you in taking the high road to fix your marriage.
tell her there is not enough time in the day to spend with family and friends and since she is neither you can not waste time on her. also i would mention that since you and your husband are working out the issues that the 2 of them created you would rather have no futher contact. good luck and god bless.
Meet her and see what she has to say, it may be something you need to know, fear may try to creep in but if you don't meet her you will always be wondering. Also, before you go write down everything you want to know that way you won't leave no question unturned. Also,make sure you look good as Hell!
Oh, yeah and for your husband tell him nothing til you get back. It may be nothing to worry about
Nope, not only no but heck no. It sounds like she is trying to stir up more trouble between you and your hubby. Never trust the other woman because she will say ANY lie to get you to kick hubby out so that she can have him. These kind of women are poison pure and simple. The most manipulative kind. Tell her to go to he LL and stay away from you and hubby. By the way how did she get YOUR email???
You'd better go meet her and see what she has to say. I know it'll be scary but you need to see what she wants especially if you and your husband have been trying to work it out. Best of luck to you. Be a lady and don't get baited into being anything but a lady.
I would go but I would look GOOD! Show her that you have class and listen to what she has to say but if she is trying to get back into your husband call list through you that its not going to happen.
Who knows what she is up to...
apology?
shoot you?
tell you something that happened between them.
People who go after married men are skanks...
If you go take your husband with you.
I wouldn't give her the time of the day.
tough one..
good luck
Tell her yeah you'll meet with her and then you will knock her flat on her a.s.s. Which is what you should of done with your husband in the first place.
She is probably going to tell you that something did happen between them.... I would go and see what she has to say or what she has to show .... and then after that I would beat her as$ for being such a ho%e!!!!!
You need to go and find out. I presume she is going to tell you they have been having an affair, why else would she want to meet? you need to go and deal with it.
shes feeling guilty about something is what i would assume. i would definatly go, but not for coffee because i dont think she would want that thrown in her face.
go, and make your position on the matter quite clear. she sounds like she is overwhelmed with guilt. but prepare yourself for the worst she may tell you that she has slept with your husband.
Go and find out what she wants. Take a tape recorder, it might come in handy. Good luck.
you have nothing to gain by meeting with her. tell her you're not interested. just stay away from your husband
My curiosity would get the best of me. I'd go. Perhaps she's got a guilty conscience and wants to talk face-to-face.
I'd suggest a 3some
I think if she wants to speak, she should be willing to say everything in front of your husband too. Tell him about it and ask if he wants to go too. That way if she has any games in mind, she will see that you two are a united front, in every way. He may not want to, though because that could be pretty awkward. I'd accept his decision either way. But, tell him, and ask for his opinion. HE is the one you need to have trust with, not her! And, you can't ASK for trust without showing it.
Good Luck!
That's a tough one. Are you going to believe everything she tells you? What if she tells you they actually got it on? and what if she does tell you that and she only tells you that to split you and your husband up? Then again what if she tells you the truth and your husband lied about it being nothing more than flirting? I would go if I were in your situation just because of the curiosity of what she wanted to talk about. If you do go just listen to what she says, take it in, and sort it all out before you say anything to your husband. and if you do meet her I'd love for you to email me what she wanted!
Go and meet with her she may have something important to get off her chest
While I would be curious about seeing what she wants, I think I'd have to pass. Either she is looking for forgiveness or to cause more drama or she could be nuts.
You've made the decision to forgive your husband and seeing her may open up a Pandora's box that ends your marriage for good.
Tell her that you aren't interested in anything that she has to say. Tell her that you and your husband have made the decision to work on your marriage and rebuild the trust that was lost and you would appreciate it if she would leave the two of you alone.
If you trust that your husband has ceased all contact with her that is not necessary apart from work then I would also tell him that she is contacting you and trying to get you to meet with her. Gage his reaction, if she has anything incriminating to tell you then if he is serious about healing your marriage then he will most likely come clean with anything that he hasn't told you yet.
but if that isn't a road you want to travel down then tell her to get lost and don't say anything to your husband.
edit to your addition:
good luck. I hope all she wants to say is that she is sorry for any pain she's caused you.
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