My heart is breaking, but I saw no other choice. She told me of her promiscuous past, and I couldn't move on. Almost two weeks of hiding out and not answering phone calls..and my feeling didn't change. She was my first love, but she told me an unacceptable number of men she had layed down with. People tell me the past is the past, but I hate her for making such irresponsible decisions...didn't she realize this would hurt someone that loved her someday?
What do I do, where do i go from here? Part of me feels I will never meet a woman as perfect as I thought she was again, but I can't be with someone that has been with over 50 guys. Help, please.
Move on. If you can't accept her for who she is, past and all, then you shouldn't waste her time or yours. You gave it time, and it didn't change how you felt, so just let it go.
Maybe next time, before you get involved too deeply, you should have a discussion about previous sexual partners.
You have a hard time dealing with this because we're taught that sex is bad and only sl.uts sleep with a lot of people. Sex is a part of our personality, and nobody should be shunned or treated bad because they had a sex life.
Put yourself in her shoes. If you can't, you will have a hard time dealing with women who are not virgins.
Wow 50 guys!!!! thats alot.
Theres plenty of other girls. not promiscuous too.
Stop thinking that she was the best because theres always better!!!!
Accept the fact that you will be lonely forever and move on. There is no perfect woman.
There are reasons it is never a good idea to tell a new love how many people they have been with...the past is the past...but..if has been so many other people, you are right to have hesitations.
It hurts now..your dreams of what could be..are crushed. But..believe me..in time..your pain will ease and you will be ready to move on.
Until then...allow yourself to feel sad..angry..and everything else in between. You need to do that before you are with another. If you don't..you will only be comparing this one to your past.
Just be good to yourself....and let time heal before you find another.
And you will find another, whether you believe it now or not.
you shouldnt love someone especially if shes your fisrt love.. you shouldnt find love at first sight..theres way more people out there that you wanna meet but you dont wanna leave that tiny box your in.. you cant get her outta your head.. you have her stuck in your head cuz you know shes your first love..
if shes the type of person that hurted people she went out with thats wrong.. cuz its really sad seeing people get hurt like that.. and you shouldnt get hurt again by her.. the more you think about her your going to make the wrong move.. just forget about her.. and love is: to regard with affection, to be tenderly attached, the passion between the sexes..
you cant be feeling that for her.. you need someone thats right for you..!
i hope this helped!!
Call your buds, get über drunk, meet new girls and get back on the horse.
Don't complicate things more, you let her go, so live with it. And move on.
u guys have to talk to eachother better being frends than not at all... if u really like her go get her but talk to her bout this thing thats going on and say ur uncomfortable with it
Dude you gotta get a grip. No one is perfect. I mean you say you love this chick, mane so just forget about the past. I mean yeah it does hurt, trust me I know. But it can always be worse. It could have been 100 men. It doesn't change how she feels about you now. You have to learn and accept the fact that she had the guts to tell you that instead of letting you stay in the dark and one day learn it from someone else and trust me, it would have hurt alot more. Its obvious that this girl really love you. A lot of chicks are in that mileage but dont have the balls to admit it or share it with the one they love. I say let the past be the past and love this girl for who she is now rather than who she was yesterday. That's how I roll. Dont let this be the thing you always regret!!
don't expect to find an angel in today's society
if you love her than you should be able to forgive her. if not, then you don't know what true love is and you're better off single for now.
at least she was honest...you're going to mess around and fall in love with a liar
Move on, find another girl, your belief that there will be no one like her is just because of how much you like her. But if you want to be with someone more clean, than that is your choice
Good for you man. Now, just see your Checking account every month, the numbers are going high and high. The world will be all yours.
Great to be single as well.
I am. I have 3 motels. Do the math!
LAMO!
get over it and buy a sex doll
Have you asked yourself who many women you have been with? If she is faithful now, what possible difference is that going to make? If she hasn't been faithful to you then that is a reason.
There is no such things as a perfect person. If you really loved her, you would accept her faults. Everyone has faults in their lives and they do things that they will eventually regret. Life is about choices and no one in this world makes all right choices. I went through the same thing your going through with my ex. Only thing is that I didn't sleep with that many guys. He couldn't deal....just like you.....and we broke off our engagement in 2004. About 2 years later....he all of a sudden wants me back. I said no.... And now I'm engage to a wonderful man who looked over my faults just like God does us when we do something wrong.
Trust me, you probably gave up a good thing and probably wouldn't find someone else like her. I bet she'll make a wonderful wife to someone else that will look over her faults and take her as she is.
Good Luck!
good gor you
Imagine how she feels. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone something so personal. She must have really loved you to trust you with that type of information. And you repay her by turning your back on her when she's being open with you. I mean, a real man doesn't care about the past men because you have her in the present and in the future. It's not like she slept with the whole country. And in 2007, society makes you think promiscuity is okay. Sex has been in style for a long time. So, who are you to judge her? I mean, atleast your best friend or parents didn't tell you about her past. She was woman enough to be honest with you. I mean, if I were her, I'd be glad that we broke up. Seriously, dude, you just told all her business with no remorse, on the "world wide" web (emphasis on world wide). You're the one who can't be trusted not your girl.
just try to move on...
shes not worth it...
she doesnt even know what she wants..so just try to forget about her...just remember that everything happens for a reason
Well, I hope you can live up to some you love standard's in the future. If this girl didn't meet your standards than I guess she wasn't right for you.
Although, if people continue to judge her for her past what hope does she have of being redeemed. She will never have love in her life by your standards. Jesus forgave a prostitute and didn't judge her.
Get a new girlfriend...
You were an idiot for breaking up with her. The amount of people someone has been with is no indication of their personality or faithfulness. What a cowardly reason for splitting up. I'm glad she's not with a douche anymore.
i know what you mean cause i was with the one girl and i thought she was just perfect and when we broke up i was so hurt and i went kinda emo but then i met some one else and ow im the happest i have ever been in my life so ya it hurts but you just got to move on and find something else and when you do you will look back and think how you even liked that girld like i did ;)
You should forget about her. She is obviously too slutty if she has been with THAT many guys and from here you should go out and meet another girl! There IS a girl out there who is perfect for you and she will be a responsible one. You will find that girl sooner or later but it's up to you to scout her out! You can do it!
Good luck! =)
Whoa, that's... a lot of guys there. *However*....
The real question is: has she *changed*? Is she still promiscuous? You said you felt like she was perfect, so it doesn't sound that way.
Now, I don't answer a whole lot of questions, but this one I have to say just hit very close to home. About four years ago, I was a completely different person than I am today-- unhappy with myself (as so many girls are), extremely self-conscious, and desperate for affection and affirmation. I sought out things I shouldn't have, to put it mildly. I thought that if I gave men what they wanted, maybe they would love me. I was miserable, and hated myself for what I was doing, but it escalated and escalated until I was in way over my head. Then something happened-- I met a friend. He sought me out constantly for conversation, and was complimentary, courteous, and above all, respectful. That simple friendship turned me around, and finally I learned to respect myself. I am horrified now when I think of my "past life" as I call it, and it's like I'm looking back on another person's memories. I would never do any of that now.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, if this woman is changed, please, hear her out. Seems to me like she's a good person, since you seem very mature, and you had such a high opinion of her. Take some time off, to sort things out, and then talk to her. Does she regret it? If not, you probably made the right decision, but if she does... I think you should give her another shot. If you don't know the psychological reasoning behind it, at least you can get her explanation.
I'm curious to see what happens, let us know. Good luck.
i have a bad past (not as bad as that tho)
i regret it
but i still deserve to be loved by someone
if shes sorry about her past and regrets it
she should be forgivin and loved again
find someone who saves herself for marriage, for the person she will commit to, trust me i know a lot of girls who do that. for some one who slept with over 50 guys she has some real issues man, she wasn't the one. the one is still waiting for you
buy some cowboy boots, asian porn, and go to a the nearest tree and have s e x with it.
Yes.. that sucks.. In any relationship, when there is something you are unhappy about it, you have to 2 choices... 1) Get over it.. meaning you have to decide if the person is more important than the problem.. or 2) Get on with it.. meaning you have to move on. It seems to me that you've already made your choice. If you can't live with this choice, because you are in too much pain, then perhaps, she is more important to you than the fact she has slept around so much. Bottom line, you've got to make up your mind before you are going to be truly happy again, with or without her.
hon I just turned 45 and I really understand how u feel! You need and will meet one day a girl that Wants to be true to you and you only! Whether a girl or a guy - it feels like a betrayal! Be patient - you young - and know what you want. Don't settle for anything less, that's the way you make your happiness! Don't trust a girl who's been with so many men! At my age , I haven't even been with 50 guys and I was very hot! Just very moral too! You need a loyal girl!
She was being honest with you, that means she really, really trusted you to tell you that information. If you can't think of her in a romantic light because it creeps you that she's been with 50 men, try being just her friend for a while and don't have any romantic interaction. It might ease the pain somewhat.
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