Ok, so, I've decided to expand this to more than the gaia community, my co-workers opinions, and my mom and best friend. My boyfriend of two months, guy friend of almost two years (mostly long distance though), does just about EVERYTHING for me, from washing my work clothes when I'm to exhuasted to do them, to running upstairs to get me a drink if I ask him to. But my thing is, he rarely works (I secretly suspect he is fired and not telling me, everytime i ask he gets defensive), he has me pay for everything, from food, to gas to his cigarettes (no, I don't smoke), and the food and gas i dont mind, but since we've been together he hasn't even bought me dinner ONCE. And now I'm finding messages on his phone when I play scrabble or something (with his permission) of him texting other women "Are you wearing the thi-hi's tonight?" "Meet me in the mall parking lot" and "I bet next Friday you won't be so quiet" (Friday is my day off btw). When confonted with these findings he claimed he had a severe lack of judgment, and was just "leading those girls on". He called them both and explained "My girl is here, would you please tell her we haven't done anything?" Is it just me or is that universal for "Please lie for me"? My mom wants me to go back home to Texas, as I moved up to North Dakota just to pay for everything and apparently sit at home when he is supposed to be out at the bar with his guy friends and he is meeting other women for nights of "Thi-hi" and "not so quiet" fun. So what do I do? I mean any advice would be appreciated.
You should be happpy that you saw ACTUAL evidence! some women accuse their men without any proof, but you saw it with your own two eyes, what more do you need... and mom knows best you probably should move on...The women who he is asking to lie for him are the type of women who knows that he has a girlfriend and is comfortable with that.. they probably are just out for sex and fun, but no commitment as well so they are cool with him having a girl... i honestly think that you are wasting your time... what is he contributing?? the only reason why he is probably doing EVERYTHING for you is because you are paying for everything for him... stop paying for everything and lets see what he does, will he still do everything for you then? their are more fish in the sea (its been said time and time again, but still holds true) You deserve a man that is going to give you as much as you give him.. I know that he does stuff for you but the situation would probably be a little different if he wasnt texting girls and "leading them on." (so he says). Guys dont do that if they are really interested in you. It seems like he is the only one benefitting in the relationship : free meals, cigarettes, gas, and sex with other women! Hope this helps, make the best decision : )
What do you really think? Go back home. Question: If he has no job and no money, what is he doing going out to a bar? As far as the text messages, come on? Leading them on?
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