every time i see a pregnant women, they stare at me like i did something horrible to them.
im 16 years old and due in 4 weeks. i would like to attend the La Leche Meeting tonight but i would be going alone and im scared of being stared at.
dont know what to do....
Let me tell you what I really hope you're going to find: A friend. I went a few times not knowing anyone but then I started talking to another lady and she has turned out to be a best friend. Even though at the beginning you may feel that you have nothing in common with these ladies, you will find that really you have a lot in common. Age would be the only difference you will find. I believe that you will find the La Leche League crowd, VERY SUPPORTIVE. These are women who revel in doing what women do best: nurture and raise babies. I believe you will find them tolerant of differences. Don't be afraid to ask a lot of questions and look helpless. These women are motherly by nature, I think you will find at least one or two people who want to take you under their wing. Wish I could be there for you.
What you should be uneasy about is being pregnant at 16.
I gather you and "bf" did not consider the consequences of your activities before you indulged.
If you are "uneasy" about going to a meeting of pregnant women, imagine how uneasy your life will become as your pregnancy progresses and you try to raise a child without a mature husband.
"every time i see a pregnant women, they stare at me like i did something horrible to them."
YOU DID !!! You have demeaned pregnancy and motherhood.
The people there will be so glad to see your interest in nursing and willingness to come alone and decide what's best for you and your baby that they will not worry about your age. Many people have been in the same position they know that the one's trying need all the support they can get. A women I know was a La Leche councilor for many years she got pregnant at 15, baby #10 is 2 1/2 now and she loves being a mother. You never know who will be at such a meeting or what their history is, you could meet other mothers your age and make some lasting friends.
Whether or not people judge you at first accept that they are only human and that is there mistake. Show them who you are and give them a chance to amend their original thoughts.
Go with your head high and a smile and let people learn that you are responsible and mature as you sound.
Congrats for giving nursing a thougth whether you decide to or not.
It's not going to matter where you are, there will be people who think they can accomplish something by giving your dirty looks.
Most parents deal with this at some point no matter their ages. It can be because the glare-er thinks there are too many people in this world, that they're annoyed at a screaming child in a store, etc.
The question is, are you going to live your life based on what you think other people are thinking about you or are you going to choose to make the best decisions for your and your baby, worrying only about how you feel about them and how they affect the two of you?
I'm 16 and I'm also due I feb 28, yea I get stared at too alot but I try to ignore it.don't mind what other people think.if your uncomortable going by yourself ask a close friend or parent to go with you.but seriously don't think what other people will think about you, they don't know you. they just stare us down cuz we're young and pregnant most people hate that.try going to support groups for teens they help you alot and they also understand what we're going through.. I hope everything work out for you. have confidence in your self and ignore negative people. good luck =]]
you needed to be concerned about 36 weeks ago, it has passed, my last pregnancy I was stared at constantly because people thought i was young unwed mother, i guess i look young... i know how it feels... 3 weeks ago I had to send my wedding band and egagement ring in to be resized, cleaned, and ahve my stones tightened.. i was at the store withmy 5 year old 9 month old and my 5 year old tells some older people that I have another baby sister in my belly fo rher... I thought there eyes were goingt o burn a hole through myhead.. it is just something you have to get over no one is going to agree with you 100% of the time... at least you are doing what is best for you and your baby right?
Hold you head high and go. Smile at whoever looks and never look back again. You're no less of a mother than anyone else just because you are young. And you know you're going to be a good one, so be proud of yourself, don't let anyone make you feel ashamed. Those people don't know. I wouldn't have even acknowledged that answer, it's completely ignorant.
People are always going to judge, the one thing you can do to really spite them is beat the stereotype. If you want someone to go with you ask you mom or someone else you trust and can open up to so that you can be more comfortable.
Is there a relative or a good girlfriend that can go with you?
I understand being scared, but you are trying to do what's best for your baby and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. Have courage in yourself for doing this and getting this far!
you have to grow up a lot when you have the responsibility of a baby-no matter how old you are when it is born! :0) so you are just going to have to buck up and not worry about what other people think and go anyway. good for you for wanting to bf your baby~
Honey, due what's best for your baby--no one has the right to judge you. Get a friend to go! Good luck and CONGRATS!
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